My gosh Laura….tight hugs to you. What a horrible experience. I am so sorry about this struggle. Where in Australia are you? I am moving in September to QLD. take care! Xx

Thank you for your advices. Much light and courage in your way. God bless.

I really enjoyed this. I’ve been getting “bombed” a helluva lot lately – innocuously, incongruously, while playing an online word game at which I happen to be rather good. In a way, as an older woman living in a town with a lot more women than men (in which case older women like me often become almost invisible), it’s not the worst thing for one’s ego – sort of amusing. Dozens of guys demanding my attention. And actually, it seems to have had an uncanny effect on the dynamics operating in my immediate environment. I seem to be getting noticed a bit more.

I’d met a guy on an app over a year and a half ago, we texted for a few weeks and clicked well, met up once. He seemed nice and cool but he was going through a divorce (didn’t know he was still legally married until we met up… first amber/pink flag) and a rough time so we didn’t date after that.

We reconnected recently through a friend and he asked me out, and I said sure. But over text he kept saying things that felt too advanced for our level of dating (“you’re cute” repeatedly, “let’s hang out now,” “hey. I didn’t see your face today.” etc). It felt off for being basically pre-first date.

With a friend’s help I wrote out what I think was a pretty grounded, neutral text saying since it’s been so long I wanted to let him know where my head was at (still pretty early stage dating), and asked how he was feeling/if that lined up for him.

He immediately got defensive, and was acting like we had some deep previous connection from texting for a while the first time we met (when I didn’t even know he was married and living with his still-wife). It all just felt off and intense, so we canceled our date.

I don’t know if it was “love bombing” but it definitely felt like he was projecting something onto me/“us” that wasn’t actually there.

I myself know’s, how I would and what I have for my feelings towards a person. Physical appearance is easily mistaken as an emotional feelings, where there is appreciation, admiration, and likings was being overpower the feelings. That’s why some as I heard from few that they look physical attraction for they can amend the feelings in the long run or process of the relationship.

When in terms of feelings, emotions, and connections that holds the bond of your desire to show and prove that it is a matter to you and for the other one/person in no doubt expressing is not an issue despite the benefit of the doubt that you have from the past experience, from the story and advice that been heard, and the circumstances of the time is not yet incubating to have a trigger of doubts, fear, and confusion of it is worth to take it or it is worth to leave it.

It is not the feelings, emotions, and connections stopping us to be in love and to be love for, It is you invest the probability of failure than the opportunity and potentially a life time partner that comes in the time of your discomfort – for as they say distraction will come when you are in the right thing, in the right time for they hold you to be a hostage of your own.

As love has a lot of meaning and character from person to person from where there attraction could catch theme in the moment that love calls the soul of a two, that’s how you can’t stop love when the two are investing for that love they wait, they nurture, and evaluate of how the matter of love is all about in a relation that thinking of.

Love is not an affection nor an attention. Love is an emotion that even your sad you are okay, even you are happy you are sad when love is not there. Love is when you know – the label of your commitment to the person you love for it is love know’s no boundary nor a separation and division, for love is a label of your love, a seal of integrity, honor, and values that having love is okay and when timea comes just for example one of you mistakenly fallout as it is a possiblelity but hopefully not, I wish for the best that in true love we can learn that love is like our life in time of our death it the time for death do will be end. Same as in everything let’s not romantacising the Love is a hyppe feeling only because in love you find a perfect gems, the precious one, also in love you can be shattered into pieces. Always remember that in every brokenness that we have there is a perfect art of love that we can grow together to be the museum of growing, enjoying, creating, and everything that can be possible in love.

Have a nice day and I wish all of you a good hunt for the love that is perfect for you and your future ones.

Thank you.

Coy

He was just telling you nice thing to get your money. He is a catfish, a fraud. He never cared for you. I’m sorry. :/

Thanks for sharing this personal story. I ‘feel you’ as I went through similar situation for one and a half year. The love bombing was short only last first couple of months, but then I was in state were I thought if i love him more it will be better. He would ‘wake up’ and realise how great he has. Untill one day i woke up :) and realised how toxic he is and disvalued that relationship was. No growth but just missery. So I walked away and never regreted. Yes it was hard during healing process, and admit to myself that I fell for such a trap. It was very hard to forgive myself for allowing someone to behave so low towards me.
However, I have my happy ending now :). So, I wish you a healing too!